“(The process of differentiating a self) requires knowledge of the function of emotional systems in all families and the motivation to do a research study of one’s own family. The study requires that the researcher gain control over his emotional reactivity to his family, that he visit his parental family as often as indicated, and that he develop the ability to become a more objective observer in his own family.” –Murray Bowen

“(One) can begin to see the triangles and the part he plays in the family reaction patterns, he can begin the more complex process toward differentiating himself from the myths, images, distortions, and triangles he had not previously seen.” –Murray Bowen