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A New Baby Changes the Individuality/Togetherness Balance in the Family.

by Lorna Hecht-Zablow | Jul 25, 2023 | New News

One of Murray Bowen’s most significant contributions was his recognition of the universal opposing life forces of togetherness and individuality. Birth and early infancy may be the time these forces operate
more closely to the hypothetical optimum 50-50 balance than at any other point along the lifespan.

Stuck In the Middle With You

by Lorna Hecht-Zablow | Nov 1, 2022 | New News

Shawna feels stuck between her mother and her younger sister. Mother complains about sister’s rude behavior, lack of motivation, and marijuana use. Sister vents about mother, calling her a “nag” and “controlling.” Shawna feels sorry for her mother and thinks her role is to provide support in an abusive situation. Even so, she tends to listen passively to her sister’s grievances rather than risk setting her off.